You’ll never live up to their expectations.
Who are you to show up in a big way? Just give up.
You haven’t succeeded yet, so you never will.
Have you ever had voices like that in your head? I have them today. I have a presentation later today with some people who could potentially send me a lot of business, so my gremlin voices are extra loud.
They won’t like you.
You don’t have enough experience.
You always freeze. You’ll never be able to answer all their questions.
I know a secret about these voices – they are trying to protect me. They are trying to keep me in my place in my tribe, so I won’t lose tribal support and end up alone and likely to be eaten by a lion. They are trying to prevent extreme discomfort by keeping me in my comfort zone. And I appreciate their efforts! Only thing is, they’re a little too zealous.
I hope you’re not late with all that traffic.
You look frumpy in that dress.
You always forget something you need.
Here is my tactic for today: Thank you gremlin voices! It’s so nice to know you are always there to keep me safe. I really appreciate your efforts. Only thing is, I don’t need you right now. I’ve got this. I’ve done it before, I know what I’m talking about, I’m an adult. You know what would be really helpful? Instead of tearing me down, build me up. Tell me all the things that could go right, not wrong. When I hear you start to talk, I’m going to make sure what you’re saying is helpful. OK?
No one wants to hear what you have to say. – Actually, I was invited to speak because they do want to hear what I have to say!
Your insights don’t matter. – Really? The last group I talked to thought my insights were helpful and even profound.
What makes you think you can succeed this time? – Well, I’ve been improving and learning and working for a while; now I have the support, confidence, experience, ability, systems, and knowledge I need to thrive. And when I thrive, I can help so many more people! It’s win – win – win!
My gremlins start to shift into cheerleaders when I do this. I stop hearing the voices of everyone who has doubted me, and start hearing the voices of those who believe in me.
You don’t let anything stop you.
You have such a big heart.
Your smile lights up a room.
You are courageous and keep showing up.
You care so deeply about the people you help.
You got this!
People tend to find what they look for. What we pay attention to, grows. I refuse to let my doubts run the show today. I got this!
So do you.